Just a quick disclosure- this post is in no way intended to induce sympathy, feelings of guilt, or a feeling of pity/sorrow towards those mentioned!
So... I have this "friend"... who has a "few" children... who all happen to be of the same gender, who here and there have a rough day. This good friend of mine occasionally likes to throw herself a pity party and tell me how unfair HER life is. For instance... this friend of mine was telling me about one particular day recently that went a little something like this...
*Toddler waking up in middle of night and SHE had to put him back to bed.
*Baby waking up in the morning hungry and SHE had to get up and feed him as her husband lie there sound asleep(she was convinced that he probably hears all of it but pretends not to)
*Having her pre-school child "pushing his limits" first thing in the morning and SHE had to bust out the punishment 20 min before leaving for church
*SHE had to deal with a cranky spouse all day
*SHE had to break up the continuous fights/bickering of children as her cranky spouse took an afternoon nap (Wasn't SHE the one that was up in the middle of the night with the toddler?)
*SHE had to fight with her oldest all afternoon about not having the last donut or a Popsicle since he didn't eat his lunch.
*SHE had to do a load of laundry because all of the baby's clothes, burp cloths and bibs wreak of baby barf
*SHE had to fix the kids dinner, bake a desert and clean up the house
*After baking and cleaning, at 10:15pm, SHE had to change and feed the baby one last time for the night because her hubby had dozed off already. (Wait... wasn't HE the one who got a nap earlier?)
*SHE is having a bowl of rice krispy's for dinner at 11:00pm
*SHE WANTS to CRY.... SHE IS EXHAUSTED!!
Now I don't want you to think that this friend of mine is at all looking for sympathy because she is not. This post is strictly just for therapeutic reasons only, a means to vent. This post is so that I can tell this "friend" of mine to go ahead and just blow out those candles at her pity party and be grateful for what you do have! SHE has "a few" adorable children and a cranky spouse, now sound asleep! SHE has a quiet minute all to herself. SHE " has" a house... to clean, a washer and dryer to do laundry, food to feed her children, beds to send them to when they misbehave, and a "usually wonderful" spouse who would do anything for his family if asked to. It is to remind my "friend" of a young family who recently had a baby girl with a serious and often fatal heart condition who at this time are fighting for their baby's life, who's mother stays up all night watching her baby's monitor. It is to remind her of another young family with four children, who's parents were in a extremely horrible accident and both parents are now fighting to recover from critical burns. This post is to tell my "friend" to get over it! Go to sleep and start a new day... no pity party intended!!
10 comments:
Let it out girl! You (I mean she) are totally entitled to vent. At least you can recognize your blessings. I hope today is a better day. Oh wait...it will be because will be seeing who can do the best performance on the slide!!! I'm seriously bringing my suit!
Just because SHE has many blessings, doesn't mean SHE won't have tough days. Lots of tough days actually, and maybe a few more tough days on top of that. Luckily, the end of the tough day always comes. And you've got the right perspective to wake up and be willing to do it all over again! Tell your friend to vent whenever she feels like it!
I think SHE has the best attitude. You can't fix what has already happened but you can choose to move on and start a new day.SHE is a great example.
This makes me smile. I'm sure that many of us can completely relate with your "friend". We're lucky that tomorrow brings us a new day and we typically feel a little better by then. I might tell your "friend" to sneak away and do some "errands" and maybe get a quick nap at any undisclosed location! That's what I'd do!
yup i had one of these pitty parties on sun...when plans didnt go as planned...but like your "friend" i decided to look at all my blessings and decided to make the best out of what we were left to deal with and in the end we are both happy with the situation...i thank your "friend" for sharing her story, it let me know im not crazy and i guess people just have those days sometimes! your "friend" has a great attitude...your lucky to know her=] hope SHE is having a better day!
Hey, tell your friend that you have a sister that will help and that it's okay to vent and break down and cry every once in awhile. I guess this is the type of stuff that we get to go through as parents to make us stronger but it never hurts to vent it out! You can be over stressed and grateful at the same time! I've gone to bed after having a bad day with one child and felt guilty after he's nicely asleep and realize that I do have many things that I need to recognize that help me out daily! Life is crazy!
Tell your friend that her hubby does need a kick in the BUTT! Maybe I will send my hubby down to do it! LOL....yeah right!
I love it. You let that friend vent all she wants :)
I love your posts they're so fun to read and so "real" life. Enjoy the fun and not so fun days:)
I have a "friend" that has a lot of days like that! :)
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